Welcome to Dom Sub Living — a safe place to explore BDSM.
My name is Alesandra and I’m a 24/7 submissive in a monogamous marriage. My BDSM roles are Sub, Masochist, and Daddy’s little girl. My vanilla roles are stay-at-home wife and mother.
Daddy and I have enjoyed kink pretty much our whole marriage, and would do light BDSM but only during sex. It wasn’t until we had been married for a while that I started getting interested in the lifestyle. I had always called him Daddy, because I really felt like he was that protective, dominating role in my life. But then I wanted more.
I started researching BDSM online and immediately everything just clicked: this was what I had always been wanting, and not only that, this is what I needed.
I approached my husband, shared with him what I had been reading, and told him that I wanted this 24/7. And more importantly, I needed him to want it too. He has always been willing to try anything, and even in some ways he’s more kinkier than me, so he agreed. I mean, what husband wouldn’t jump for the opportunity to make their wife have sex whenever they wanted?
We wrote up a contract, and in the beginning we would renegotiate and collaborate frequently. He would ask me many times about our new relationship: “Are you sure this is what you want?” He was afraid that I would someday admit to being fake, that I was just doing it for him, and that I didn’t really want it. That never happened, and it never will, so eventually he stopped asking.
I was surprised and delighted how seriously he took on his new role. He would do research, make up new rituals for me on his own, and of course the sex became hotter and hotter. However it was really our relationship that saw the most improvement. We never judged each other as we discovered together what it truly means to be Dominate and Submissive.
All this naturally led to me wanting to start a website with my Daddy’s permission. It was really two main reasons that led me to this decision:
- Misconceptions. There is so much misinformation about the lifestyle, especially online, that it’s really frustrating when you’re trying to do research. And whether you love or hate “50 Shades of Grey”, it has really given BDSM a bad name.
- Porn saturation. Even though there are a few good BDSM sites, the majority are just porn. They have very little content, and the content isn’t even that good. It’s just mostly porn. I really felt that the community deserved something more serious.
I’m really excited with this new site to provide healthy exploration and a safe dialogue about all that BDSM has to offer. Enjoy. 🖤