Free pdf template 50 shades of grey printable contract download

How to Create a BDSM Contract- FREE PDF

Free pdf template 50 shades of grey printable contract download

Before you begin any new Dominant/submissive relationship, it’s a good idea to have a contract.  It spells out in detail what is expected of each person.  It also keeps things safe and consensual.  Even if you are married to the person and are starting to enjoy BDSM together, a contract can make communication easier.  Plus it’s incredibly sexy to discuss sexual rewards and punishments with each other.  Here are some things to keep in mind, and don’t forget to download your free PDF contract here.

Your contract should be somewhat formal

Everyone has probably seen the “50 Shades of Grey” contract scene.  In the movie, Anastasia and Christian amend the contract, discussing their hard and soft limits.  It’s done at his work, at an office table.  While your negotiations do not have to be this elaborate, it should be more than just a conversation.  If you’re just talking about what you like and don’t like in bed, you’re basically having a regular vanilla discussion.

Download my free PDF template as an example

My contract I have with my Dom is based on the one from “50 Shades of Grey”.  You can download a free copy of the PDF template here.  While some may say the wording sounds cheesy, I get turned on by the businesslike terminology.  Feel free to change things or add your own additions to the PDF.  It doesn’t include the food list because it never appeared in the book or the movie, but you could always make your own.

What to include in a BDSM contract

A contract contains what both parties will and won’t do.  It clearly spells out the roles expected for each person and what these involve.  It will also explain a sub’s availability: is this part-time, long distance, or 24/7?  Here is a list of other topics to include:

Remember, this is your contract, make sure it contains anything you feel strongly about.

What do you do with it afterwards?

After a Dom and a sub sign a contract what happens to it?  It should always be accessible to both parties to refer back to when needed.  After you sign it, you and your partner should both have a copy.  My Dom and I keep ours in our bedroom nightstand.  I like having it close to us.  It reminds me that I’m bound to him.  Every few months or so, we bring it out and have a negotiation session.  We reread it together, reminding both of us of our boundaries and expectations.  Usually nothing changes in it, but it helps us not forget our roles.  And discussing it together always turns us on.

Everybody practicing BDSM should be free to have a contract. Create one with your partner and make sure to go over it periodically together.  Even if you’re not currently in a relationship, it’s good to have one written out. That way you already have a clear understanding of your own boundaries and expectations.  🖤

Do you have a contract? Tell us in the comments what’s in yours.

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14 thoughts on “How to Create a BDSM Contract- FREE PDF”

  1. Hello I love the site. Going to go into contract with a Dom
    I have known for years. On the contract it is missing appendix 4
    regarding the food. Is there a list for food.
    Thank you
    Sandy

    1. Sandy,
      That’s so great you’re taking the next step and going into contract! I wish you both the best. Unfortunately the downloadable contract doesn’t have appendix 4 because it was never listed in the “50 Shades” books or the movies. Feel free to make your own food list though. Thanks for stopping by!

  2. Whew. To be honest, I take issue with the all or nothing approach you’re making here. IMO, it’s not absolutely necessary to have a contract in order to successfully have a BDSM relationship. Yes, I agree that in some ways a contract would help with barebones issues, in laying down in no uncertain terms how the relationship might operate, but it’s not ironclad.

    The main problem I see with contracts in BDSM is, they’re not legally binding. So, in essence, you’re putting a little too much trust in the written word on the paper in order to make yourself feel better day to day. Communication goes a long way towards negating the need for this written contract, being in contact with your partner, keeping them updated on issues with yourself, themselves and so on.

    Finally, I’m one of those that aren’t comfortable with taking too much from ’50 Shades’ and applying it to BDSM practices. The author of the books freely admitted that she didn’t know much about BDSM when she wrote them and did minimal research in what all a real BDSM relationship was about. She read a lot of things on the Internet at large and guessed at the rest. Which is why a lot of us ‘old-school’ BDSM’ers have problems with what newbies are gleaning from the books and movies and trying to apply it to their own fledgling version of TTWD.

    I realize my reply goes against the grain of what others have posted, but I’m basing this on my own experience with the lifestyle, my interpretation of it and so on. I’m most defintely NOT saying YKINOK here. If you and your Dom have a contract, it works for you, and you think others should have one, all well and good. I’m just saying it’s not absolutely necessary to have one. And that’s what I was getting from you post. Thanks for listening.

    1. Hi Mark,

      Thank you for visiting the blog and sharing your opinion! I’d be happy to help you understand my reasons for this post.

      First of all, of course a BDSM contract isn’t legally binding or iron clad. It’s just an extremely useful and sexy way to communicate one’s sexual desires and limits, and get into the Dom/sub mindset. It’s not that you’re trusting a piece of paper. It’s just that sometimes verbal agreements can be forgotten or misunderstood. That’s why even vanilla counselors recommend written contracts in relationships. They’re just proven to work.

      Second, most of the visitors to this blog are just starting out, and a Dom/sub contract is a great way to get started in the lifestyle.

      Third, after starting this blog, I was getting so many requests about the “50 Shades” contract that it just made sense to do a post about it. I know a lot of ‘old-school’ BDSM’ers as you say, have problems with newbies getting information from those books and movies. But as a pre-50 Shades practicer myself, I’d rather embrace the new awareness it’s caused, rather than alienate and shame people with an elitist attitude.

      The bottom line is, can you have a successful Dom/sub relationship without a contract? Absolutely! But I’ve just found that they are extremely beneficial in the BDSM lifestyle. Thanks again for visiting, Mark! I wish you the best on your BDSM journey. 🖤

    2. I would kindly like to rebut. BDsM is all about Trust. From start to finish. I believe that the contract represents in solid form that Trust. If Y/you can’t trust T/them to be honest and abide by what’s written on a simple piece of paper. How can Y/you trust T/them with Y/your safety, Y/your well being and in my case, my life. When my Master and I make a contract and collaring, I will be a Real life 24/7 slave. I will depend on Him for almost everything. If I can’t trust Him to agree and abide by that simple piece of paper, how can I trust Him to take care of me? It’s a physical form showing the trust W/we both have for each O/other. Irregardless if 50 shades of trash is mentioned it not. It’s a good idea. Just because a bad movie was mentioned doesn’t make the idea bad. Lol

  3. Hi Alesandra, thanks for responding to my reply.

    Appreciate also that you took the time to come over to my side of the Rubicon and post on my blog as well. I’m sure we can both agree that discussion is a good way to solve problems, manage disagreements and clear up misconceptions. So I welcome the opportunity you’ve provided here.

    I do agree that contracts can be helpful in any sort of relationship. Without beating a dead horse, (too late at this point I expect) I was merely pointing out that they’re not completely essential or necessary for a successful BDSM (or any other) relationship. Helpful? Sure. But you can write down limits, preferences, rules and other aspects of your relationship and it doesn’t have to be signed, witnessed, notarized and the like. It can be a simple list. Not a contract. If you want to call it a contract, fine, so be it.

    I don’t think of myself as an ‘elitest’. I don’t really know if you were referring to me as such in your third point paragraph. Yes, I’ve been in the scene since I was in my teens. (50s now, so there’s a bit of history there) I learned about it pre-internet, from books and magazines of the era, from mailings and other forms of communication that are long since retired. The Compuserve computer system was a great resource for me back then, it’s where I met my wife (a Dominant) and we successfully got together and have made a marriage that’s lasted 25+ years. Which is not too bad for one of probably the first 1000 marriages that were instigated through the pre-Internet.

    I agree there are very few quality sites that can steer people that are just getting into the scene. Fetlife is a great place to interact with people, but it’s a bit lacking in terms of actually introducing people to BDSM and fetish interactions. Yes, it’s not a meat market. Even though people wish it was, and treat it as such. It’s not the big brother to CollarMe/CollarSpace. Though again, people do treat it as if it was.

    I applaud you for taking the time to create something that people can go to for information about BDSM, give fresh information and links and well as resources, and yes, foster conversation about things that might be new to them and they need a place that’s non-threatning. Thank you for that.

    Bottom line, I’m not apologizing for my viewpoints. They’re mine alone and I support them. That being said, I’m big enough to be able to converse about them and understand others’ points of view. Best to you and yours.

    1. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts Mark. I always love meeting others who are also longtime practicers of the Dom/sub lifestyle. And congratulations on 25+ years of marriage! I hope you continue to visit the site, you’re always welcome here.

  4. My wife and I have been talking and wanting to join this lifestyle for sometime and now we have finally decided to take plunge. We believe a contract will work quite well since we are both prefer having rules,list,etc. But as I said we are hoping to get as much as info as we can. Thank you and hope to hear from you soon.

  5. I don’t have a contract but I am very interested in starting one with my Dom. I am new to this but I’m ready and eager to learn and be a part of the Dom & Sub living. Any advice for some new to this. 😁

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