Contract Free Pdf Download 50 Shades of Grey BDSM Dom Sub Printable Template

How to Create a BDSM Contract- FREE PDF

Contract Free Pdf Download 50 Fifty Shades of Grey BDSM Dom Sub Printable Template

Before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship, it’s a good idea to have a BDSM contract.  It spells out in detail what is expected of each person.  It also keeps things safe and consensual.  Even if you are married to the person and are starting to explore kink, a contract can make communication easier.  It’s one of the few things Fifty Shades of Grey got right. Here are some ideas for you, and be sure to download your free printable PDF template here.

Your contract should be somewhat formal

Everyone has probably seen the Fifty Shades of Grey contract scene.  In the movie, Anastasia and Christian amend their contract, discussing her hard and soft limits as a potential sub.  They cross out and add different items to the list. It’s done at his work, at an office table.

While your negotiations do not have to be as elaborate as Fifty Shades of Grey, it should be more than just a conversation.  If you’re just talking about what you like and don’t like in bed, you’re basically having a regular vanilla discussion. Plus, it’s incredibly sexy to discuss sexual rewards and punishments openly and out loud with your partner.

Here is an example of the formal wording from the template:

“The fundamental purpose of this contract is to allow the submissive to explore their sensuality and their limits safely, with due respect and regard for their needs, their limits, and their wellbeing.”

How to use my free PDF template download

My contract I have with my Dom is loosely based on the one from Fifty Shades of Grey.  You can download a free printable copy of the actual PDF template here.  While some may say the wording sounds cheesy, I get turned on by the business-like terminology.

Feel free to change parts or add your own additions to the printable PDF.  If you’d like, you can also copy/paste it into a Word or Pages document, and edit it even further.

The printable PDF download doesn’t include the Appendix 4 food list from the Fifty Shades of Grey contract, because it never appeared in the book or the movie, but you could always make your own.

What to include in a BDSM contract

A contract contains what both parties will and won’t do.  It clearly spells out the roles expected for each person and what these involve.  It will also explain a sub’s availability: is this part-time, long distance, or 24/7?

Other things that are good to have listed in it are the start date, and how long the relationship will last.  It can be mostly sexual, or include emotional and physical aspects. Here is a list of other topics to include:

Remember, this is your contract, so make sure it contains anything you feel strongly about. I’ve seen contracts that are just one short page, and others that are a dozen pages. There is no right or wrong way to write one, but make sure you feel comfortable with everything it includes (or doesn’t include).

Is a BDSM contract legally binding?

A BDSM contract is an extremely useful and sexy way to communicate one’s sexual desires and limits, and get into the Dom/sub mindset. However, it isn’t legally binding or iron clad. While every country and their laws are different, a BDSM contract usually does not hold up in court. Legally, it also doesn’t imply 100% explicit consent.

With that being said, contracts are still a good idea to have for physical and emotional safety and communication. It can be a red flag if someone says contracts aren’t needed at all, or refuses to create one with your partner.

Remember that sometimes verbal agreements can be forgotten or misunderstood. That’s why even vanilla counselors recommend written contracts in relationships. They’re just practical and proven to work.

Also, if you can’t trust someone to agree and abide by a simple piece of paper, how can you trust them to take care of you or serve you? A contract is a physical form showing the trust both partners have for each other.

What do you do with it afterwards?

After a Dom and a sub sign a contract what happens to it?  It should always be accessible to both parties to refer back to when needed.  After you sign it, you and your partner should both have a copy to download and print. 

My Dom and I keep ours in our bedroom nightstand.  I like having it close to us, because as a sub, it reminds me that I am bound to him. Every few months or so, we bring it out and have a negotiation session.  We reread it together, reminding both of us of our boundaries and expectations. 

Usually nothing changes in it, but it helps us not forget our roles.  And discussing it together always turns us on.

What to do if the Dom/sub contract gets broken

If boundaries aren’t respected and the contract gets broken, what to do about it really depends on the situation and the individuals involved. Sometimes for a seemingly minor offense the partner at fault could be warned never to do it again.

For more major breaches of trust though, the innocent partner always has the power to terminate the relationship.  And it’s always a good idea to discuss beforehand the consequences of breaking a contract, and even including those possible scenarios and consequences in the document.

Here is an example of how that is worded in my free printable template:

“If at any time the Dominant should fail to keep to the agreed terms, limitations and safety procedures set out in this contract the submissive is entitled to terminate this contract forthwith and to leave the service of the Dominant.”

Kinky contracts aren’t just for Fifty Shades of Grey. Everybody practicing BDSM should feel free to have one. Download my printable PDF template or create one with your partner and make sure to go over it periodically together. 

Even if you’re not currently in a relationship, it’s good to have one written out. That way you already have a clear understanding of your own boundaries and expectations.  🖤

Do you have a contract? Tell us in the comments what’s in yours.

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7 thoughts on “How to Create a BDSM Contract- FREE PDF”

  1. My wife and I have been talking and wanting to join this lifestyle for sometime and now we have finally decided to take plunge. We believe a contract will work quite well since we are both prefer having rules,list,etc. But as I said we are hoping to get as much as info as we can. Thank you and hope to hear from you soon.

  2. Hello I love the site. Going to go into contract with a Dom I have known for years. On the contract it is missing appendix 4 regarding the food. Is there a list for food.
    Thank you
    Sandy

    1. Sandy,
      That’s so great you’re taking the next step and going into contract! I wish you both the best. Unfortunately the downloadable contract doesn’t have appendix 4 because it was never listed in the “50 Shades” books or the movies. Feel free to make your own food list though. Thanks for stopping by!

  3. My wife and I used your template as a guildeline of what to layout, we called ours “Rules of Engagement” and it lays out the hard limits and expectations for a scene as well as rules for her and I. We intend it as a living document to be renegotiated as time goes on and interests grow. Granted we are very much beginners in this realm, I’d say this has been a real step forward for us on this one, we wrote one up tonight.

  4. We do not have an official contract. Maybe it’s because we are not living together. So far, it works very well for us.

    What we have is three things:

    1. The all the time rules. For instance: I am never allowed to orgasm, or touch myself, without his permission (it can also be in the timely instructions). I am also not allowed to sleep with anyone else, ever. He is, btw. I find that a huge turn on. Who would’ve thought:) also safe words are in this area.

    2. Before each time we see each other, I get a set of rules from my Master, that I can discuss with him and tell him whether or not I agree and why. For instance: I will always take care of the toys we use, I will always walk on all four, and always sit on the ground in waiting position except when he tells me not to, and I always have to ask permission to pee or shower. Also: hard and soft limits are here.

    3. Rules for when we’re not together. Those are different each time, it depends on the situation. There is also a difference between time with and without kids. Those rules dictate: how often I should edge, a morning and an evening assignment and what I should wear.

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