Daddy’s Little Girl-Exploring Ageplay

One of the most popular BDSM relationships is the DaddyDom/little girl dynamic (DD/lg).  For some it can just be something they role-play with, but for others like myself it is their identity.  There are many benefits to ageplay for both the Dominant and Submissive.

BDSM Daddy's Little girl

What exactly is BDSM ageplay?

It involves treating the Sub like they are a certain age, usually younger, anywhere from toddler to teenager.  In turn the sub treats their Dom like their Daddy.  He takes on the paternal role of protector and caregiver, and administers discipline when needed.  The sub becomes his “Little” and relies on him emotionally, financially, and sexually.

Ageplay is NOT pedophilia.  Pedophillia is having sexual feelings towards children, and a sub is a consenting adult.  A DaddyDom wants to be with HIS little girl, not little girls in general.

Why is the DD/lg relationship so fulfilling?

It satisfies both individuals on many levels:

The DaddyDom

Men are naturally attracted to youth and innocence and having a Little meets that need continuously. They will also have someone rely and dote on them, and counting on them to “fix it” when things get hard.  Littles are constantly seeking the praise and attention of their Daddy and will do their best to please him.  A DD also gets the satisfaction of disciplining his Baby Girl when she misbehaves in any way he desires.  And she will come to him with her sexual needs as he knows how best to please her.

The Little

In a symbiotic way, what makes the Daddy happy fullfills the Little’s needs and vice versa.  She will be made to feel eternally youthful and beautiful, and he will spoil her and cherish her.  Subs that choose this relationship are usually relatively fragile emotionally, and having a supportive, paternal figure is very soothing.  Being told you’re a “good girl” makes a sub feel extremely content.  Knowing they make their Daddy happy gives them immense reassurance.

How to incorporate ageplay

Dress the part

The DaddyDom ultimately chooses what his little girl wears but short skirts, shorts, having hair in braids/pigtails is usual protocol.  School girl outfits are very popular, and Brazilian waxes give the look and feel of a little girl.

Talk the talk

Littles should refer to their Dom as Daddy, and always ask them for permission, just like a dependent child would.  DDs need to call their Littles by appropriate names like Baby Girl, and conversations and lectures are more enjoyable when she’s told to sit on his lap.

Embrace the role

DD/lg revolves around wanting to please and fearing disapproval so rewards and punishments are vital.  Even little pats on the head mean a lot, and spankings are a must.  Keeping the attitude of “Daddy knows best” will deepen intimacy.  Also age appropriate activities like coloring and keeping a journal can  help a sub feel more “little.”

Ageplay can become the basis for a healthy BDSM relationship, and bring even more happiness to both the Dom and his sub.  🖤

Are you a Daddy or a Little? What are your reasons for the relationship? Let us know in the comments.

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BDSM Rituals and Why You Need Them

Rituals are an important part of any healthy BDSM relationship. They help the Dominant and Submissive remember their roles, and can be a way to stay centered and focused. Read on to learn the basics and maybe pick up some new rituals to enhance your connection.

BDSM kneeling rituals

What are BDSM rituals?

Sometimes people will use the words protocols and rituals interchangeably but they are slightly different. A BDSM protocol is a hard and fast rule usually listed in a contract. A ritual is more of a way of carrying out something. It almost always involves an action where the Dom prescribes a series of behaviors for his pleasure and benefit.

Why have rituals?

Rituals are a way to discipline a Sub.  They teach them obedience and submission and keep them in the right frame of mind.  This is true for the Dom as well.  Sometimes if a Sub has been acting too rebellious or bratty a ritual can snap both parties back into their role.

I really enjoy my rituals and view them as almost solemn and spiritual.  When I perform a ritual it feels somewhat ceremonial even.  I take pleasure in knowing I’m doing something my Daddy wants and that makes him happy.

Examples of rituals

Rituals are automatic and a good Sub shouldn’t have to be asked to do it every time. If a Sub does forget (they’re not perfect) they should be disciplined to the proper degree.  A good Dom doesn’t make up rituals just for the sake of having one.  There should be a reason for them and should be for his pleasure. Here are some of the rituals my Daddy has for me:

  1. Kneeling and oral sex each night–  My Daddy usually goes to bed before me since he wakes up early, so once I’m all ready for the night, I sit in the bed next to him and kneel.  If he doesn’t wake up by then I will lightly rub him and say, “I’m ready to suck you now, Daddy.”  I will perform oral for him and he will stop me when he chooses.  Sometimes it’s after a minute, and other times I finish him completely.  I don’t stop until he tells me.
  2. Kissing him whenever he arrives home-  This is another popular ritual and one I can safely perform in front of others.  When he comes home, wherever I am in the house and no matter what I’m doing, I go and greet him with a kiss.
  3. A morning text-  My Daddy decided on the ritual of every morning texting him how I was feeling, and a detailed plan for my day.  Before this he would usually text me first to tell me good morning and that he loved me.  I loved that and didn’t want to give it up.  Respectfully I told him and he said he would continue to text me first, but then I would have to reply with what he had requested.  It was a successful compromise and we have been doing it ever since.

Can Doms have rituals too?

Yes and no.  Doms will do certain actions as a routine but they are never expected to do it as they are allowed to do whatever they want.  An example is how my Daddy opens doors for me.  Before I get in the car or enter a building he will almost always open it for me, and it makes me love him even more each time he does it.

Some rituals may not work

It may be that after performing certain rituals they will have to be eliminated.  This happened to us.  Every morning when Daddy was at work I had to let him decide my panties for the day.  I’d pick out three, lay them in a row, take a picture, and text it to him. This was fun at first and I did it for almost a month.  It ended up causing me a lot of stress though.  There were many mornings I would have to rush because it was taking up too much time.  I wanted to be a good Sub and keep trying but eventually I told him that it was hard to do.  Thankfully he told me I could stop. He still makes choices on my panties from time to time, and will often tell me to wear none when I’m in a dress or skirt.  So if a ritual isn’t working, a sub can always talk to her Dom about it respectively, or through a journal.

I find peace in rituals. They benefit both the Dom and the Sub and are essential for training and discipline.  🖤

What rituals do you have in your BDSM relationship? What works and what doesn’t?

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Brazilian Wax Tips for Daddy’s Little Girl

One of the best ways to get that “Little Girl” look and feel is to get a Brazilian wax.  In the past I would shave pretty regularly but it wasn’t fun.  It would get irritated and only last about two days.  On a whim I decided to get a Brazilian for a vacation and I was hooked.  My Daddy and I hadn’t entered our BDSM relationship yet so I would only do it when I wanted to, and I would leave a little triangle. But after we became Dom/sub he would have me get it regularly waxed and even told me to get it completely done. I was a little scared with taking off the last bit of hair I had left, but it is so much easier and looks and feels amazing.

BRAZILIAN BIKINI WAX

European Wax Center is my go to place to get completely bare ever since it has become standard protocol. Maybe you’ve never had a Brazilian wax, or even a bikini wax for that matter, and you don’t know what to expect. But I’m here to guide you through it so you can become a Brazilian pro.

Scroll down for 12 tips and tricks to keep you smooth for a long time.

European Wax Center Brazilian Review:

EWC is a great place to have a Brazilian Wax. It’s never fun, but at least here they do it quick and relatively painless. They use “hard” wax as opposed to strips. The wax will cool and harden and will be ripped off.  I’m not going to lie, the only way it can be described is to imagine ripping duct tape off that area. Surprisingly though you get used to it, and the more frequently you get waxed the less it hurts

For me the most painful part is the lips. The least painful part: the butt, which they will do with you holding your knees and spreading your feet apart. Most Brazilian virgins fear the butt. However, for me it’s always such a relief when my waxer finally tells me to put my legs up.

She may go in with tweezers and get the stray hairs, you may have to do this later at home too (Usually my Daddy likes to do it for me). She’ll then rub a calming lotion over everything and tell you you’re done. Always take a look at the area before you get off the table, and even check in their full length mirror on the wall. Never hesitate to ask them to wax areas they missed, or straighten up the triangle or strip. You payed good money and you did not go through all that pain to not have it completely perfect.

How Long It Lasts:

For me I usually go every three weeks. But that doesn’t mean you are bald for three weeks. I could go swimming in public comfortably for probably only the first two weeks, which is better than the usual two days I’d get with shaving. When it grows back in a little you’ll look like you’re beginning to hit puberty again and the hair will be so soft and light.  My Daddy loves it, and it turns him on to know I’m getting hot wax rubbed onto my intimate areas and forcibly ripped off.

If you’ve never done it try it at least once because I’m sure you’ll love it.  If it’s not for you it can always become a hard limit.  You will notice EVERYTHING feels different after your wax though: peeing, showering, sex… you will feel like a slip-n-slide! I orgasm a lot faster and have more frequent and easier multiples too.  Even if you don’t have a partner yet, I’m sure you’ll still really love it.

Brazilian Wax Tips and Tricks

Before:

  • Even if you go to EWC, check “Yelp” to find the name of a good waxer.
  • If you’re getting waxed for vacation, two days before is good so any redness will be gone.
  • Schedule your wax between 3-5 PM. Research shows your pain tolerance is better in the afternoon.  (This is good to know for BDSM punishments too.)
  • The morning of your wax, shower, and lightly scrub the area with a product like St. Ives Apricot Scrub.
St. Ives Apricot Scrub
St. Ives Apricot Scrub
  • 45 minutes before your appointment, take two Advil.
  • Wear comfortable clothes and underwear.

During:

  • Breathe, talk if it helps, ask the waxer to stop if the wax is too hot or if you need to take a break.
  • Before you get off the table/put your clothes on, check the area to see if they missed anything.

After:

  • At home, pluck any strays with tweezers (this is a good job for the Dom).
Tweezerman Slant Tweezers
Tweezerman Slant Tweezers
  • Immediately apply a salicylic acid lotion.  I love Paula’s Choice BHA Body Lotion.  Apply it once a day for the next two days.
Paula's Choice RESIST Weightless Body Treatment 2% BHA
Paula’s Choice RESIST Weightless Body Treatment 2% BHA
  • The next day shower and shave the parts they didn’t wax: lower stomach, thighs. Again, Paula’s Choice makes a great shave cream.
Paula's Choice PC4MEN Shave Cream
Paula’s Choice PC4MEN Shave Cream
  • 24-48 hours after the wax: no exercising, hot tubs, or sex.  After that, enjoy and schedule your next wax!  🖤
What are your thoughts on the Brazilian Wax? Do you have any tips not listed here?  Let us know in the comments.

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